‘Oughts’ and ‘Shoulds’
18th May 2024 - 19th May 2024
Do you suffer (and I mean suffer) from what someone described as a ‘hardening of the oughteries’? Do you spend your time doing – or not doing – the things you ought be doing and letting the things you want to be doing fall by the wayside? Do you feel there are certain ways that, as a person, a worker in a certain field or even as a Focuser, you should or shouldn’t be? In these difficult times, do you think you should be taking some particular course of action or feeling a particular way about what is happening? Many of us are familiar with the dynamics of our inner critics, but often the ‘sensible’ critics – the ones that are constantly telling us to do this, that or the other for our own good or the good of the world – convince us to identify with them. They may have a lot of right on their side, but if they are trying to make other parts of us do what they want we will remain in conflict.
This online workshop will help you find ways to explore the inner dynamics of those ‘oughts’ and ‘shoulds’, making it easier to do both what you want to do and what you need to do from a place of freedom and co-operation rather than coercion or rebellion. Underneath these dynamics there is often a feeling that ‘I’m not OK unless I…’ or ‘I’m not OK because I haven’t…’ The more we listen to these not-OK places, the more they feel accepted, the less need there is for the ‘oughts’ and ‘shoulds’ to take control.
The workshop is open to anyone who has some experience of Focusing and being a Focusing companion. It will run from 10.00-1.00 on Saturday 18th and Sunday 19th May. The cost is £75, concessionary rate £50. If you would like to attend but are unable to pay the concessionary rate, please contact me. Please also contact me if you would like an individual refresher session before the workshop.