- Ask one of the people in your Focusing class if they would like to try out being your Focusing partner.
- Ask your Focusing teacher if they know someone who is looking for a Focusing partner.
- Join the BFA Focusing Partnership Pool. Here’s how:
- Complete at least an introductory Focusing course with an experienced Focusing teacher
- Complete the application form
- If you are accepted into the Pool (you have had sufficient basic training in partnering), you will be sent the website address.
- What is a Focusing practice group?
- A Focusing practice group (or Focusing Circle or Changes group) is a place where Focusers can meet to exchange Focusing turns for free.
- What are the benefits of Focusing practice groups?
- developing your Focusing abilities
- practicing your listening skills
- meeting other Focusers
- being able to work with people who have different kinds of Focusing process
- being able to work with people who have different levels of Focusing experience
- being able to ask questions and offer support to other Focusers
- they are free to attend
- What are practice groups like?
- They are informal gatherings – no one is a leader or teacher though usually one person acts as group coordinator.
- Each group sets its own agenda which can include a group go-round and time for Focusing partnerships.
- Some of them are for a couple of hours and some meet for the whole day.
- Some of them include having a bring and share meal together.
- What is a Focusing gathering day?
- A Focusing gathering day is a Focusing practice group that meets for the whole day
- Sometimes there is a presentation or mini-workshop as part of the day
- Who can join a Focusing practice group?
- each group sets its own policy on who is eligible to join so contact the group coordinator for details.
- What is Focusing partnership?
- Focusing partnership is a peer relationship where you can exchange Focusing turns. When you learn Focusing you will be encouraged to form a Focusing partnership
- What are the benefits of Focusing partnerships?
- Developing your Focusing abilities
- Practicing your listening skills
- Having regular support for your Focusing process
- They are free
- What are partnership sessions like?
- What do people Focus about?
Most people Focus on whatever is uppermost in their awareness that day. It might be a ‘funny feeling that doesn’t make sense’ or a very specific situation that feels stuck or difficult. Some people have a Focusing “project” and return to it week after week.
- How often do people meet?You and your partner decide how often is right for you. Most partnerships meet once a week, though anywhere from several times a week to once every couple of weeks is common.
- How long does a session last?
You and your partner decide how long you want your turns to be. Most turns are about half an hour long for each of you, though anywhere from twenty to sixty minutes is common.
- How should we divide our time?
We strongly recommend that you divide your time equally. In very rare circumstances you might decide that one person gets the whole time but that is the exception rather than the rule.
- What do people Focus about?
- What makes a good Focusing partner?
- Keeping quiet and paying attention to the other person – even when they aren’t saying anything.
- Following what the Focuser wants.
- Not offering your own thoughts, opinions or advice unless asked.
- Being a human being – just as you are.
- How do I keep my Focusing partnership safe?
- You take responsibility for your own process. When it is your turn for Focusing, you get to say what kind of responses you would like from your partner, including just keeping you company in silence.
- When you are the Listener, you reflect back what the Focuser has said without adding your own thoughts or opinions unless you are asked for them
- You agree not to discuss or even mention the content of the other person’s session unless they request it – ever.
- Who can become a Focusing partner?
- You need to have at least a basic level of Focusing and listening skills. This usually means at least one workshop that teaches you how to be a Focusing partner.
- Lots of people have learned Focusing informally. You can become a Focusing partner if someone agrees to be your Focusing partner.
- Can I have more than one Focusing partner?
- Lots of people have several partners.
- Do I have to be in the same area to be someone’s partner?
- Many people exchange Focusing sessions on the phone or by Skype.
- What if it’s not working out and I want to end it?
- Not everyone can work well together. It’s probably not anyone’s fault; you may be incompatible in style or you may have grown out of the arrangement. It is really helpful to end a partnership cleanly and amicably if possible. Sometimes this may mean bringing in a third person to help you hear each other if things have gotten difficult. Sometimes it just may mean having a special session to honor and thank each other for what you did have. Not recommended: just letting it drift away to nothing. This tends to make it more difficult if you want to start it again later.
- How can I find a Focusing practice group?
- Take a look at the listings below
Bedfordshire Changes Group
Brighton Focusing circle
Bristol Insight Meditation Focusing Group
Meets monthly on the second or third Sunday of the month, from 10am-1pm, at a private address in Coombe Dingle, Bristol BS9.
Cambridge Focusing/Walking Group
Meets third Sunday of the month at Wimpole Hall,
Wimpole Estate – Visitor information – National Trust
Contact Claire Carter. firstname.lastname@example.org
Fife Focusing Circle
Contact Carol Ervine, 01382 543188. email@example.com
Focusing North changes group
London Focusing Circle
Membership is open to anyone who has completed at least an
Contact Peter Afford: 020 8673 1860, firstname.lastname@example.org
Manchester Focusing Practice group
Shropshire Changes Group
Contact Jenny Brickett: 01588 680663
South West Focusing Groups
The Dartmoor Focusing Centre practice group meets monthly on a Saturday morning. Come for a cup of tea at 9:45, and we start at 10:00 am for explorations into Focusing. Bring what is alive for you with your Focusing practices, and we discuss or experiment in the small group. We have Focusing partners at 11:00 am, and come back to the whole group at about 12:50 pm, finishing by 1:00 pm. There is a small charge of £8.
You are welcome to come if you have reached Level 2 Focusing proficiency. Please give Fiona Parr a call, to find out the date and say if you are coming, on 01626 821110. And please contact Fiona if you wish to learn Focusing, or refresh and update what you already know.
Stroud Focusing Circle
West Midlands Focusing Circle